Apologies aren't over-rated

They are simply Under-used.

Over the last few days, I have witnessed opportunities for apologies to be made.

Just yesterday, I decided to take the first step and apologize to my dad for my outburst.  I figured since I had been out of commission for close to 4 months while I recuperate, my thresh-hold for understanding and patience had reached it's limit.  Or, I should say collapsed.

It took several days, but to be honest, I was really sorry for the strain this episode took on our relationship.  I had often taught that you shouldn't let the sun go down on an argument, especially with the ones you love.  It would be appropriate if I took my own advice.  Even if a few days late.

I came to the realization that it wasn't important who was right, or who was wrong; who was hurt, or what was said.  The important thing that really happened was that the first step towards healing this relationship was made.

It was easier sending an email to him than call.  Sometimes, people can get a chance to chew on your words (and preserve them for later digestion) when they are written down.  Within a few hours, my dad sent back an email accepting my apology, and apologized himself.

We want to mend the relationship.  We want to move forward.  We want to encourage each other, even though we might not understand the paths we have taken or chosen.

Life isn't perfect, and neither are we.  So why do we keep this impression that other people have to be perfect in the way they treat us, in the way they react to us, or in the way they act?  Why are we entitled to make judgments about other people when we are solely responsible for our own actions and attitudes?

You'd think I'd learn this by now, and that I would perfectly practice this concept.  After all, I've had plenty of practice.

I have heard some one say that "love is not having to say your sorry."  I TOTALLY disagree.  And say that LOVE is willing to say you are sorry, regardless of the facts.